Woman supports boyfriend for months leading up to his big promotion at work, only for him to dismiss her contribution, she walks out: ‘I left without saying anything’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Mar 29, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Being in a committed relationship means you have to be there for each other through the highs and the lows, for better or for worse. You support each other through everything, and do whatever you can to ease their experience and help them through stressful times.

As someone who has been in a long and committed relationship for the past 6 years, I can tell you that the two main struggles my partner and I find help each other through are family and work-related issues. Every once in a while, one of us will experience a crisis regarding one of those two things, and it's up to the other to help navigate through that and work it out.

Afterwards, it's as important to show our gratitude for all the help and support we got from our significant other. Even though we are well into our long-term relationship, we still appreciate everything the other does for us. If one refuses to recognise all the support they get from the other, what is even the point?

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  • The girlfriend in this story is currently struggling with her boyfriend's lack of appreciation. After supporting him for months while he was pursuing a promotion at work, he finally got it, and decided to throw a party in celebration. During the party, he made a speech about his journey, but instead of thanking his girlfriend for all her help, he opted to make embarrassing jokes about her in front of all their loved ones.

    Understandably, she decided to leave the party after that, but her boyfriend was not too happy about it. Keep scrolling to read the rest.

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    "I supported him during all the stressful weeks"
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    "AITAH for leaving my bf’s promotion party after his speech?"

    Throwaway for obvious reasons. I (29F) had been with my boyfriend (32M) for almost 3 years. He recently got a big promotion at work, and honestly I was really proud
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    of him. I helped him prep for it, supported him during all the stressful weeks, picked up extra stuff at home so he could focus.
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    Anyway, he threw a party to celebrate. Fancy rooftop thing, catered food, drinks, a lot of coworkers and friends, even some family. All good.
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    At one point he got up to give a little speech and started thanking people— his boss, coworkers, his parents... and then he goes:
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    "And of course, thanks to my girlfriend for putting up with me basically being a ghost the last few months. You deserve a medal or something."
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    People laughed. I kind of smiled but it felt off. Then he followed up with: "She's not climbing the corporate ladder or
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    anything, but she keeps the house running and makes sure I don't starve." More laughs. I just stood there feeling like I'd been slapped in front of
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    everyone. No mention of how I supported him emotionally, nothing about how I helped him through burnout or took on extra stuff to make his life easier.
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    Just some weak jokes at my expense. I didn't say anything. Just left. Quietly. Texted him that I was going home.
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    He didn't even notice I was gone till like 2 hours later. When he got home he was ped, said I embarrassed him and that it was “just a joke." Said I was too
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    sensitive and ruined his night. Some of his friends agree with him, but mine say I had every right to feel hurt. So... AITAH for walking out?
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    Alarming Paper_8357 NTA. "She's not climbing the corporate ladder or anything, but she keeps the house running and makes sure I don't starve."
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    He should have stopped after ". .. a medal or something." This last bit was condescending and dismissive. You didn't storm out, you just didn't hang around -- and he didn't even notice, anyway, so was he
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    ped off you weren't there to clean up after the party? There are two kinds of partners: Those who build up their partners in front of others, knowing that people will tend
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    to think, "hey, what a guy, to deserve such a great girl!" and others who feel the need to be dismissive of their partner's contribution to their life. Most people look at the latter as
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    "what a j - why does she put up with that kind of c. p?" He might want to watch out, because he may find himself starving, soon.
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    EconomicsWorking6508 No, in fact you were amazing in being able to smile through his dismissive speech. I guess he thinks you're like the pit crew as he is the dazzling race car driver. I'm not sure what you could do to get him to recognize your contribution! NTA.
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    miakensington OP Yeah, it was honestly really hard to keep it together in that moment. I didn't want to say anything and ruin the night, but it hurt way more than he realizes. Thanks for understanding.
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    -AdequatelyMediocre- No you just didn't walk far enough. It's a huge red flag when your partner dismisses your feeling, especially when they're the one that hurt you in the first place. He sounds like hot garbage.
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    RandomReddit9791 NTA. He told you (and the crowd) exactly what he thinks of you. Instead if acknowledging how you've supported him, he made some demeaning comments at your expense. They weren't jokes.
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    Odd Effort_8899 Nta for leaving. But he looks so down on you, you ll be yta if you stay.
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    Upstairs-Comment6277 who throws themselves a huge catered party for a promotion. if work does it, you're valued. if you do it, you're an egomaniac
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    calacmack His comment was not only disrespectful, it discredited any professional standing you may now have or will want to establish in the future. NTA.
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